Therapist, Coach and Self Help Author
Couples Counselling is a specific area of counselling which requires specialised training and qualifications. With a Post Graduate Diploma in Couples Counselling, I’m fully qualified to help you with your relationship problems.
Here are some common things couples tell me. Do they sound familiar?
We can’t stop bickering
It feels like we’re miles apart
He /She doesn’t understand how I feel
We've lost the intimacy
I'm just so hurt. I can’t forgive
I don’t know how to trust again
I can't cope with the anger
We're going around in circles
Its like talking to a brick wall
The Good News
The good news is that it is perfectly possible to overcome your problems and rediscover the loving connection and emotional intimacy that you once had.
At the end of therapy many couples tell me their relationship is better than it ever has been.
Couples Therapy Packages
In the many years that I've been helping couples, I've found that having a set number of sessions combined with practical tools and resources is the most powerful way to help couples overcome issues and make the shift into a happier more secure relationship.
Having these extra resources means that you can take what we cover in your sessions and apply it to your relationship in practical ways in between sessions, and into the future.
With this in mind I've developed the following therapy packages based on common issues couples face.
Choose a therapy package that most suits your current situation. We will have a free 30-minute consultation session where we can discuss your needs and I will then tailor the package to specifically help you as the unique couple that you are.
Not sure which is right for you? No problem, just choose one and we can discuss it in your free 30-minute consultation session.
Reconnect - Bring the love back into your relationship
If you feel you've drifted apart and lost the intimate connection you once had - this therapy package is for you.
You may feel lost, stuck and frustrated that you’re not being heard. You may be having the same old arguments, going around in circles. Nothing gets resolved because you aren't communicating effectively.
The good news is that it is perfectly possible to find your way back to the loving connection and emotional intimacy that you once had.
Includes 6 or 12 sessions, tools and resources: video, audio worksheets
Restore The Peace - Let go of anger, resentment and bickering
This therapy package is for you if you have a lot of anger in your relationship. If you are continuously fighting, bickering and there is a lot of miscommunication. There may be resentment, hurt and emotional pain.
The good news is that it is perfectly possible to find your way back to the loving, happy peaceful and secure relationship you once had.
Includes 6 or 12 sessions, tools and resources: video, audio worksheets
After the Affair - Learn to love and trust again
This therapy package is for you if your relationship has been damaged by an affair. You're stuck going around in circles. You desperately want to regain the trust and overcome shame, fear and insecurity.
The good news is that it is perfectly possible to recover from an affair and find your way back to the loving, trusting relationship that you once had.
Includes 6 or 12 sessions, tools and resources: video, audio worksheets
Feeling unsure about having couples sessions? Watch this video to help you decide.
Frequently Asked questions
Are you specifically qualified in Couples Therapy?
Yes, Couples Therapy is a special type of therapy, so it’s important that you get help from someone fully qualified in this field.I hold a Post-Graduate Diploma in Couples Counselling and am a member of the CCN, the Couples Counselling Network
I specialise in helping people with confidence and relationships and am the author of two books:
Out Of Fear Into Love
How Kind People Get Tough
Why can’t we overcome our relationship problems by ourselves?
It’s likely that you’ve made several attempts at getting your relationship back on track- but even though you resolve things for a while, those problems keep popping back up –it can feel like quite a struggle.
It’s often the case that those problems are actually symptoms of deeper issues. With the help of a trained and experienced therapist, you can discover how those deeper issues may be impacting your relationship. Most importantly you can learn proven methods: tools and techniques to get past those issues – quickly and in ways that last.
Do we have to be married to come for couples counselling?
No, you do not have to be married. The only requirement is that you are in a relationship. I welcome couples in any kind of relationship, heterosexual, gay or lesbian; married or co-habiting; pre living together, separating or divorcing; with or without children.
How long are the sessions?
Couples Sessions are for 1 hour and 15 minutes.
This is longer than standard couples sessions which are 50-60 minutes – in my experience, 75 minutes works well for couples. It is an optimum length of time for you, because it allows plenty of time to work on your needs, without becoming too overwhelming.
How often will we have the sessions?
Sessions can be weekly, fortnightly or monthly. In your free 30-minute consultation we can discuss your personal needs and your schedule. We can then decide on the best fit for you.
Where are you located?
I am located in Lagos, Algarve, Portugal. We can have sessions using Skype, Zoom, Facetime or WhatsApp video.
When the crisis is over: if you are in Algarve, Portugal you can visit me at my practice in Lagos
What if my partner doesn't want to come for the sessions?
If you are worried about your relationship, but your partner wont come for sessions, you are absolutely welcome to come along as an individual client.
What if we decide we want to end the relationship?
Sometimes couples come to the conclusion that they are better off separating. Even though living apart, many people will continue to have a relationship of some description -and especially if you have children. It's just that it will be a different kind of relationship.
It’s important that you find ways to communicate well and adjust to your new circumstances. Counselling sessions can help you negotiate this and find better ways of getting along for the future.
How Do We Book Sessions?
Click here to choose a therapy package that most suits your current situation.
We will have a free 30-minute consultation session where we can discuss your needs and I will then tailor the package to specifically help you as the unique couple that you are.
Not sure which is right for you? No problem, just choose one and we can discuss it in your free 30-minute consultation session.